what should i do about my son?

i have a 5 year old boy and i am concerned about his behavior. there is a little boy on his football team that has been feeling his penis. i've done everything i can to keep him away, but i'm afraid i realized what was going on too late. in addition, my teenage daughter let him watch 'don't mess w/ the zohan' and he has started to exhibit disturbing sexual behavior:

i've caught him down on all fours with the dog behind him. i don't think i need to explain this further. after speaking with him, he said he saw this from the movie and thought it was funny. my husband and i both explained that it wasn't funny, respect your body, etc. but he's still doing it. i'm giving away the dog.

i know he's at the age of exploration and finds his penis fascinating. but he also says that girls and boys are his girlfriend and he says stuff like touch my penis, touch my butt butt.

i don't believe he's touched anyone but i'm afraid that he likes that type of attention. what should i do? can a counselor help w/ this? he's only 5. how do i make him understand?

Thank you for sharing. I would really investigate who you choose to talk to as far as a therapist. Someone that deals with young children, knows how to talk to them and can deal with that problem and your environment.

He may be acting out. Sometimes it has been done to them, but you have talked with him. I would continue to get help.

I have heard of a relative doing that to a younger child as a child and I don't know if he got help. The other family cut off any association with the child.

Curtailing his television must be part of your control, he is still a child. Also, talking to the sibling about what programs are not good for them to watch.

I have been abused, but I am not a professional, so I don't want to give my opinions.

Just know that you and your family are not alone, people just keep it quiet.

Also, I would suggest that you try not make him feel nasty or ugly for what he has done. It is a tough problem, but there is more help these days. Prayers and good luck to you all.

santacruz1997

I am a Psychology minor and I can tell you sexuality is a complex thing. Seek help but also understand that a lot of this is not as abnormal as you would like to think. Most people just do not talk about it. I (who was abused) and some of my friends (who were not) did all kinds of inappropriate stuff as kids as we were exploring sexuality.

You are right to be concerned, and that shows that you are being a good parent by being alert to this situation with your son. I would definitely take him to a counselor. Kids are naturally curious at that age, but it is inappropriate for anyone, even another child on his football team to feel his penis.

mrsrich02 wrote:i have a 5 year old boy and i am concerned about his behavior. there is a little boy on his football team that has been feeling his penis. i've done everything i can to keep him away, but i'm afraid i realized what was going on too late. in addition, my teenage daughter let him watch 'don't mess w/ the zohan' and he has started to exhibit disturbing sexual behavior:

i've caught him down on all fours with the dog behind him. i don't think i need to explain this further. after speaking with him, he said he saw this from the movie and thought it was funny. my husband and i both explained that it wasn't funny, respect your body, etc. but he's still doing it. i'm giving away the dog.

i know he's at the age of exploration and finds his penis fascinating. but he also says that girls and boys are his girlfriend and he says stuff like touch my penis, touch my butt butt.

i don't believe he's touched anyone but i'm afraid that he likes that type of attention. what should i do? can a counselor help w/ this? he's only 5. how do i make him understand?

mrsrich02 wrote:i have a 5 year old boy and i am concerned about his behavior. there is a little boy on his football team that has been feeling his penis. i've done everything i can to keep him away, but i'm afraid i realized what was going on too late. in addition, my teenage daughter let him watch 'don't mess w/ the zohan' and he has started to exhibit disturbing sexual behavior:

i've caught him down on all fours with the dog behind him. i don't think i need to explain this further. after speaking with him, he said he saw this from the movie and thought it was funny. my husband and i both explained that it wasn't funny, respect your body, etc. but he's still doing it. i'm giving away the dog.

i know he's at the age of exploration and finds his penis fascinating. but he also says that girls and boys are his girlfriend and he says stuff like touch my penis, touch my butt butt.

i don't believe he's touched anyone but i'm afraid that he likes that type of attention. what should i do? can a counselor help w/ this? he's only 5. how do i make him understand?

ok.....I took a few minutes to think of how to contribute some support and understanding .........
As a man that was molested from the age of 2 up to the 6th grade by 4 different people through out that time period ( im in my early 30's), someone has done something to your son. You described the effects of what happens when someone has awoken something that was not yet ready to awake. In all probability it is someone very close to you or someone who is close to the person that you trust your sons safety too. That person in all probability is presenting whatever interaction he has with him as some sort of game. That is why (imo, not a therapist yet) your son see's nothing wrong with what he is doing........ someone had to have shown him what he is doing / acting out ( like watched a porno flick with him so something like that, then preformed the acts on him or had him do it to them......( looking @ t.v.)..........) If the dog goes...... and he's acting out the way you say he is .... he'll do whatever he was doing with the dog with or at least try to with a younger child in the house. Because of my abuse at an early age, I was sexually active from that point on.......... during that time with two different girls, these were the daughters of the friends of my mother ( we slept in the same bed) i would teach them what was done to me... when your abused at an early age ......... that encounter is the first sexual experience however perverted and wrong it is.......... and for some it is very confusing in a different kind of way when the perpetrator is of the same sex....... because the focus of my molestation centered around my penis, for a long time i had a fixation with it... always had to be able to touch it and masturbate. I strongly suggest that you talk to your son and manifest an atmosphere that enables him to feel comfortable explaining everything that is happening with him....... in a non threatening way...... you cant give in to your feelings when and if he opens up to you.... (It hurts me, that my mom feels like it s her fault), other wise he might clam up on based on your emotional response. I wish you well................ if you have any questions of any kind please feel free to contact me @ thesolsurvivor@gmail.com